I’m Hayley, I’m a mum of 2 full spirited daughters who are chalk and cheese when it comes to personality.
I have become an avid reader of self development books much to my husband’s dislike since her prefers fiction novels. But I’m always on the lookout for ways to improve the person I am and want to become.
I have a background in Occupational Therapy and Psychotherapy which basically means I help others to get well and stay well by helping to engage in activities that they find meaningful and nourishing. Helping others is what gives me meaning and helping them get back wellness was my area of speciality, until it was myself that I needed to get well…
I started working in mental health in 2005 and in all honesty it wasn’t the field I wanted to work in but at that time in my life it paid the bills. Over the course of the next few years I started to become really fascinated by the human brain and what happens to us when we become unwell. I’ve never looked back and since then I have had a 15 year love affair with helping those who are mentally unwell on their road to recovery and the concept of holistic wellbeing.
My life had traveled fairly well inline with what would be considered “socially expected” (whatever that means) – leave school, go to university, find a job, get married, have children, Tick, tick, tick, tick and TICK! Life was great, I loveed my job, and everything was travelling along relatively smoothly, until one day it wasn’t…
In 2015, when I was 6 months into returning to work from maternity leave with my second child I was injured at work during a traumatic incident. After 6 long months of increasing pain and treatment with no real improvements I underwent back surgery. It completely threw life as I knew it upside down. You know the saying, “You don’t know what you’ve got till it’s gone”, well, I didn’t appreciate my back and how much freedom it gave me until it was gone. The pain overtook my life; I was unable to carry my girls, bath them or sit an play with them on the floor; car rides were excruciating; washing my feet was impossible, not to mention shaving my legs. The little things that I took for granted were gone quick as a flash.
The physical pain quickly turned into emotional pain. Atop the pain of being unable to do the little everyday things was the flashbacks and nightmares about the original incident, hijacking my brain when I least expected it leaving me sleep deprived and frayed around the edges. I knew from my training that there was going to be no easy way out of this and that this was going to be a journey that required me, myself and I to dig deep. I would need to stay with and continue to nurture myself, as well as to show up for myself each day in ways I’ve never had to before.
I discovered through my journey that the job that I thought I loved and worked so hard at was in fact not in alignment with what I wanted to be or with how I wanted to live. I had attached my career so strongly to my own self-identity that I then didn’t know who I was when I stopped working. Looking back, I now saw whispers, yearnings or what I call decision points where if I listened and followed them my life may have ended up in the same place it’s meant to be but via a very different path to get there. I believe that because I failed to listen or take action at the decision points, the universe resorted to dealing me a brutal blow in a way that it knew would make me stop, reflect and take action. Oh the universe can be cruel sometimes!
During my recovery I set out on my own personal journey for both physical and mental wellbeing and to once again reconnect with who I was, that had somehow slowly slipped away from me in the midst of motherhood and a fast paced and stressful career. I re-designed my life from the inside out, strived for a level of wellbeing that was even greater than I had before, and re-evaluated how I could contribute my unique gifts to the world in a less demanding and more aligned way to live a more purposeful and vibrant life.
It had been one of the most challenging times of my life and I had lost count of the number of times I had curled up in a ball on the floor and sobbed because I just didn’t want to accept that my life was now different to what it was and I wanted the pain to go away. On reflection it was also one of the most enriched learning periods of my life where I waded through the mukiness of my despair, learnt about old patterns of behaviour that were no longer serving me, unearthed new tools and strategies that kept me grounded, and embraced new perspectives to help move me forward. I had to dig deep to find the courage that I never thought I had! I watched myself grow, transform, and emerge as someone far wiser, vibrant, aware, and stronger, than I’d ever dreamt i’d be. Dare I say it but it’s actually been a blessing in disguise for me.
I’ve learned from the people that i have helped and worked with that the circumstances leading to my journey may be different to yours however our paths to recovery are almost identical.
What i know to be true is this
From my journey, these are the truths that I have come to know and use myself to get back to a vibrant wellbeing and purposeful life. They have become the backbone of this site and framework which helps form my thinking:
SIGNIFICANT LIFE EVENTS THAT IMPACT OUR SENSE OF WELLBEING ALSO UNDOUBTEDLY IMPACT OUR SENSE OF SELF
LACK OF ONGOING SELF-CARE AND SELF-AWARENESS CAN LEAD TO SERIOUS HEALTH PROBLEMS
CLARITY & LIFE DESIGN ARE ENABLERS OF VIBRANT WELLBEING & LIVING ON PURPOSE
COURAGE & SELF ACCOUNTABILITY TO SHOW UP EACH DAY FOR YOURSELF IS ULTIMATELY WHAT CREATES CHANGE
SOMETIMES WE NEED SOMEONE TO HELP GUIDE US AND LIGHT THE WAY
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